Ryan and I have been having a disagreement over the etiquette of names.
It all started when Ryan got sucked into listening to a long, impassioned sales pitch from a mall kiosk carnie. Me, never interested in facial products sold out of middle of the walk-way kiosks, kept moving to find another window to look in. (I might also add that I would rather be left alone in EVERY store unless I have a specific question begging an answer). The man pitching to Ryan asks, "What is your wife's name?" When Ryan tells him, the man turns and calls to me (I am 15-20 feet away) "Kari, come here." I was irritated and refused to have anything to do with the visit.
Ryan thinks I over-reacted. I think that no one has the right to use my name unless they have been introduced in some manner. I considered his actions rude and past the point of pushy. He was using my name as if we were friends and not just passing strangers.
Ryan did tell him my opinions on his actions and why it offended me. Any thoughts on proper etiquette? I say it is rude to use someone's first name until you are properly introduced--either by yourself or another person.
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
Name Etiquette
Posted by Ryan & Kari at 9:57 AM
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It would have made me mad if he had instead said 'hey you, come here.' At least he asked for your name. There are many situations where I see it as completely decent to use my name without having first been introduced....it is after all my name and what I am to be called. However I do see how the situation would bother you.
I don't know what etiquette is in the situation but I do know that if I'm not interested and someone tries to push me by being overly familiar, I'm not going to be pleased... I would have been irritated too!
Lots bigger things to fret over than a stranger using your name. Be grateful he did call you something worse. ;)Love Christi
Hmmm I would have kept walking and ingnored both the salesman and Ryan. I hate it when a pushy sales persone asks my name just so he can keep using it like that will make me buy what they are selling.
I think you should have kicked him in the shins with your cast.
Was it one of those guys dolling out soap or trying to streighten hair with a hair iron? They drive me nutty too! I think I'd have avoided them with the plague too...especially if they called me by name. Most of them are European...maybe that's a European tradition-to call you by name if they haven't been introduced?
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